By Babalola Seyi
Budding Nollywood actress, Ada Karl, has shared her story about how she grew up in an abusive environment, even though her father was a great dad.
The actress made the revelation in a recent interview with The Nation.
When she was asked about her childhood memories, the actress said,
I don’t recall anything good, just the bad ones. Like my dad physically abusing my mum – it wasn’t a palatable experience.”
On how it affected her relationship with men, she said,
“I was very suspicious of any man that said ‘hello’ to me because I assumed all men were the same.
I was traumatised and assumed all men were abusive. It affected my view about men. Growing up, I considered being a Nun, but I came from a Pentecostal and Anglican background. So, l wasn’t even bold enough to discuss that with my parents.
Managing the trauma of domestic violence is tough! I never told my friends in school because I was shy and also scared of my dad. My father being an amazing dad also made it harder for me because I felt nobody would believe me.
I still wonder how he could have been such a great dad and an abusive husband, but again he whiplashed us a lot; which is also a trace of abuse. But as a typical African child, I never viewed that as abuse but as an adult I think he was a bit extreme with his disciplinary measures to us.”
Here’s how some people have reacted to her story,
“Maybe your mother too was a Great mother but a troublesome woman “
“This was incredibly brave and honest of her – but it is the reality in many homes . Many men just do not realise that their wives are their equal partners not their subordinates in marriage. Change comes by continually speaking about such physical abuse. Talk , not use your hands like a Neanderthal”
“This is majority of women’s story … that’s why this generation of women are self sufficient”
“Abusive husband but great dad. That hits different🙌🙌 they forget the kids came from our wombs. Jeezzzzz😭😭😭”